Change can be stressful for many bright, quirky, or neurodiverse children—especially in uncertain times. Dr. Barry Prizant, author of Uniquely Human, explains how to create predictability while teaching kids to tolerate differences in routine.
Key Insights:
- Anchor Points Create Predictability
- Homes don’t need rigid schedules like schools, but some structure helps children feel safe.
- “Anchor points” are predictable parts of the day—like bedtime routines, meal times, or drop-off/pick-up times.
- Even small visuals, like a whiteboard with notes about changes, give kids a sense of control.
- Use Visuals to Signal Change
- Simple visual symbols can indicate when something will be different from the usual routine (a “curveball” sticker, a lightning bolt, etc.).
- This lets children anticipate change, making it less overwhelming.
- Play the ‘Change Game’
- Introduce change in a fun, controlled way.
- For example, switch seats at lunch, rearrange morning routines, or alter the order of activities—but signal it in advance.
- Humor and small choices empower children to practice flexibility without fear.
- Teach Language as a Regulator
- Encourage children to ask questions like:
- “What’s going to happen after lunch?”
- “Will this event replace something else?”
- Being able to request information gives kids predictability and emotional control.
- Encourage children to ask questions like:
- Rituals and Gradual Exposure
- Regularly incorporate small, safe changes into routines.
- The goal is cognitive and emotional flexibility—helping children adapt to unexpected events without stress or meltdowns.
Bottom Line:
Predictability doesn’t mean rigidity. By building anchor points, signaling changes visually, and making flexibility a game, parents can help children feel safe, confident, and capablein the face of change.
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